What do you see most? The doughnut or the hole in it. Here is a quick confidence booster
Here is a quick confidence booster: the Doughnut Thinking exercise.
What do you find yourself dwelling upon most of the times? The things you want or the things you don’t want? The great things about your partner or the ones that makes you go crazy?
What do you see most? The doughnut or the hole in it? Try to monitor your thoughts and whenever a negative pops up in your head, replace it immediately with a positive. It might seem hard at first, but eventually it will become a habit and the brain will rewire itself to the good rather than the bad.
Do a mental exercise for one week.This exercise will help you develop your self awareness. A good start is to ask your friends what they like about you. Perhaps do this exercise with some other single friends and help each other.
Draw a doughnut on a piece of paper. Then fill your doughnut with all the positives you can think of, no matter how big or small, for instance “I have nice hair” “I passed my driving test first go”, “I am funny” etc.
Stick it on the wall or somewhere you can see it regularly. Now you can practice the new way of positive doughnut thinking focusing on the doughnut not the hole.
Give yourself a break; treat yourself gentler and stop the self-criticism. Remember, we live in a world based on the Mirror Principle. Whatever imperfections we see in others, they are actually our own. If we learn to appreciate ourselves more, then we won’t need to criticize others – because we see their inner beauty, not their imperfections.
It may seem hard at first, but every time you are being hard on yourself, replace that thought immediately with an opposite thought. Set aside some time just for yourself every day, look in the mirror and praise yourself with pride and dignity. The results will simply amaze you!