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What do you find yourself dwelling upon most of the times? The things you want or the things you don’t want? The great things about your partner or the ones that makes you go crazy?

What do you see most? The doughnut or the hole in it? Try to monitor your thoughts and whenever a negative pops up in your head, replace it immediately with a positive. It might seem hard at first, but eventually it will become a habit and the brain will rewire itself to the good rather than the bad.

Do a mental exercise for one week.This exercise will help you develop your self awareness. A good start is to ask your friends what they like about you. Perhaps do this exercise with some other single friends and help each other.

Draw a doughnut on a piece of paper. Then fill your doughnut with all the positives you can think of, no matter how big or small, for instance “I have nice hair” “I passed my driving test first go”, “I am funny” etc.

Stick it on the wall or somewhere you can see it regularly. Now you can practice the new way of positive doughnut thinking focusing on the doughnut not the hole.

Give yourself a break; treat yourself gentler and stop the self-criticism. Remember, we live in a world based on the Mirror Principle. Whatever imperfections we see in others, they are actually our own. If we learn to appreciate ourselves more, then we won’t need to criticize others – because we see their inner beauty, not their imperfections.

It may seem hard at first, but every time you are being hard on yourself, replace that thought immediately with an opposite thought. Set aside some time just for yourself every day, look in the mirror and praise yourself with pride and dignity. The results will simply amaze you!

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C.G. Jung

In the beginning of any relationship everything is perfect. Both partners meet each other’s needs effortlessly and feel as if they’ve always known each other. They complete each other easily – they’re like spellbound. Some people even choose to get married during this magical stage of their relationship. But is it really the wisest thing to do?

The Dangerous Slope

This is the point where most people start to take their relationship for granted and feel as if there is nothing left to do. In fact, they’ve never been happier! We end up thinking that relationships just happen to us and we don’t need to nourish them with love and attention.

However, it comes a time when things begin to change. The chemistry slowly fades away and the fighting begins. We are faced with issues that we don’t know how to handle. This is where most people begin to realize that they’ve been through this phase before with their previous partners and suddenly memories of old conflicts start to reappear.

The magic is gone. Everything becomes rational, we overanalyze things and start applying all sorts of rules. We stop being ourselves, the two honest people that entered the relationship, and become unauthentic. The question is, how can we get back what we once had? It’s time to do something. We can take the first step and start building our dream life, together with our partner.

Here are five ways to help you build an authentic relationship with your partner.

1. Engage In New Activities With Your Partner.

Each day, do something different in the way you live together, because repeating the same things over and over again creates boring, mundane lives. Be spontaneous and don’t be afraid to spice things up a little and experiment. Surprise your partner. For example, meet each other for a romantic dinner and later take a midnight walk in the city.

2. Stay Connected.

When you’re not together, send your partner a message, ask them how they’re doing and how is their day unfolding. Describe your day and let them know what’s going on with you.

3. Share Your Life Experiences.

Try to tell your partner about all the major experiences in your life. Everything from how you felt in school, your childhood years, the relationship with your parents and any other experiences that had an impact on you.

4. Re-Create The Beginnings Of Your Relationship.

Every time you get the chance, talk about how your relationship started. Remember how you felt, what your thoughts were, bring back all the things that brought you two together.

5. Always Talk About Your Relationship.

Always talk about your relationship instead of assuming the worst. Make sure you always know how your partner feels about you and if they have any hard feelings or feel hurt and disappointed.

Really listen when they need to talk to you about something, stay open by revealing your own feelings. True love grows over time and individual needs may change. Understand that you are continually growing and evolving, just as your relationship is.

Always try to balance things by sharing your feelings and remembering the things that made you fall in love in the first place. Positive thinking, caring and a bit of creativity will help you grow and protect your relationship, making it healthier and happier than ever before.

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Things that you might not obviously ask, because to somebody, a committed relationship might mean- to one person in a relationship, a committed relationship might mean one thing, and to the other person it might mean something different, and if you’ve not had that conversation and they’re doing something that is upsetting you- but they don’t know that, because in their world, they don’t see anything wrong with it.

So that kind of understanding of how your partner sees things and instead of trying to guess what they think, ask them.

Also, I think not assuming that they think the same as what you think, because they won’t. So, I think the only way to find out what they actually think is to ask them and I think if you’re not a very confident person, or if you’ve got hidden fears, then you’re going to be too scared to ask those important questions.

So, if you set it up right from the start, or if you find someone that you can communicate, that you can openly talk to, then that’s a good start.

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Start exploring what makes your feel good about yourself. Create regular reminders that rewire your brain by creating new brain pathways and pumping your self-esteem “muscle”.

Here is another exercise. Complete the following statements:

1. I love myself because………………….
2. I’m an expert at………………….
3. I feel good about………………….
4. I’m loved by………………….
5. I’ve been told I have lovely………………….

Make a deliberate decision to find ways to improve your confidence. If you’re good at something, you have a skill – we are all good at something – make time to indulge and improve your skills on it. It will make you feel so much better and will instantly increase your confidence.

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Firstly, work out what you want

Secondly, choose a dating agency

Today I’d like to talk about first step.
Daters tend to fall into one of two categories:

•  Those who want to have a bit of fun, play the field and meet plenty of people.
•  Those who are looking for a partner for long – lasting relationship and for whom it’s more important to find that person, than to meet a lot of people.

Which category you fall into will tend to determine your choice.

Category one people will find attractive those agencies where volume is on offer – these will tend to be internet-based solutions. Internet-based agencies usually have a low or zero sign up fee, which tends to attract large numbers of registrations. However, because it’s so easy to sign up, anyone can, so you should expect to have to do a fair degree of sifting to find people like you.

You should also bear in mind:
• Most internet-based dating agencies do not undertake any form of ID-check or validation  of the details people provide, so there is always the possibility that the person you are looking at on screen and emailing backwards and forwards is not the person they say they are. 33% of internet daters actually ADMIT to lying in their profile.
• It is said that around a third of internet daters are already in a relationship and are just looking for someone better or playing the field.
• Internet dating agencies usually have more men than women registered (it doesn’t take a genius to work out why). Typically, dating sites are around 60% men but can be as high as 75% men in some cases.

Category two people are generally likely to be better off with solutions where they can be reasonably sure that people they meet are also looking for a serious relationship. These are more likely to be off-line agencies who take the time and effort to interview every client.

• Because most off-line dating agencies charge a joining fee and most will undertake an     ID-check, they tend only to attract people who are serious in their dating intent.

• Many off-line agencies interview prospective clients (though not all agencies do this, so don’t take it for granted), so they tend to offer profiles that are a tad more reliable than the average internet dating profile.

• Off-line agencies (by their very nature) don’t usually publish your image or details on a public website, so they’re a safer option for those concerned about identity theft.

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Today I’d like talk to you about success, what does success mean to you and secret of success. 

I live my life surrounded by the power of love an amazing life filled with pleasure, love and happiness.  I am a very happy woman. I love and I am loved, and I want all people to feel this grace.

And I, led by this feeling, have built my business. This is my third child. 

I love my business and my clients. I put my heart and soul in them. And they trust me.

If you want to be successful your clients need to feel that you love them.  They need to feel that:

•   They are important to you
•   You like them
•   You understand where they are coming from 
•   You want to help them
•   You are following through on your promises
•   You call them before they feel the need to call you 
•   You don’t keep changing the rules
•   You want to help them with their situation
•   You trust them

My business is just a way which helps me to achieve purpose in my life – to help people find and bring love into their life.

The secret of success is very simple – you have to believe and love yourself and what you do. Ask yourself the question: “Why do I do it?” Response will be the secret of success.

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Love is about sharing who you really are with somebody and people assisting each other to be the best that they can be. It’s about listening and being supportive, trust, honesty, fun, friendship.

Love is about acceptance. If you can accept somebody 100% just the way that they are and just the way that they’re not, then I believe that is love.

And when you have that sort of acceptance of yourself then that’s love as well. If you can love yourself, if you can accept yourself just the way you are and just the way that you’re not, then to me that is love.

I interviewed today one amazing men. He‘s got beautiful relationship for more than 35 years and 6 children. He is a builder and he is in early sixty. He gave the brilliant and simple answer to my question “What does love mean to you?”

“ Love is renewing itself all the time. It’s like a flower that is faded and it buds again and suddenly you have a new love but you’ve still, same person, same person but it buds again, so the flower wilters and they are, close it in night time or it gets a bit droopy because it needs watering and you put a bit of water on it and then it jumps again and I guess that’s, um, that’s what I would think it is.

Because life is not all Hollywood and that you’re smiles all the time, because it’d get very hard on your cheeks to be smiling all the time, you have to have some tears and you have to have some differences, and viva the differences sometimes because, the flower will not bud again if things don’t do, you know they need, I think it needs that up and down part. Like a good song with high and low the minimum crescendo, the crescendo, like music is like that and I think that life is like that too.”

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I’ve always felt that I wasn’t ordinary and that I have great potential; but how big it is and how great it is when you believe in yourself and your dreams and follow them – rather than sit and just dream – and take steps to achieve them, I’ve realized just now.

During all this time, I’ve learned tremendously and have helped others because I understand the challenges of building meaningful relationships and people’s innate desires to bring love into their lives.

By opening up my heart and loving myself and realising what I can do, I’ve unlocked my innermost desire. I realized that here is something that I’ve been waiting for my entire life. Inspired by new sweeping feelings and sensations, I decided to share them with my readers.

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Sometimes we think a relationship is something it is not because we want it to be. We don’t see out partners faults or listen to alarm bells because we don’t want to. This is a FANTASY relationship. How realistic are you about relationship? Symptoms of a FANTASY relationship are:

• Not asking questions you are scared to hear the answer to.
• Not being entirely honest with yourself.
• Not listening to your instincts.
• Getting angry or defensive when friends or family question the relationship.
• Not getting the things you want from that relationship.
• Not communicating openly and honestly about what you want.
• Believing that it is ok to settle, someone is better than no one.
• Trying to change yourself to be something someone else wants you to be, when you are fine the way you are.
• You don’t have shared goals or values, e.g. you have always dreamed of a white wedding and they are a commitment phobe

If something doesn’t feel right it usually isn’t. The signs are all around you just have to stop to look and listen.

Sometimes we choose fantasy relationships because we can’t believe our luck that that person wants to go out with us and think we should be grateful. We might confuse lust with something more.  Perhaps it has satisfied some part of your ego to have a relationship with that person. Perhaps we want to rescue someone. Maybe it is safer to have a relationship we know deep down inside wont work out because we are scared or feel we are not worthy of having the adult, real relationship of our dreams.

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